Ethical dating sites
Recently, I heard about a woman who had complained bitterly of being treated “very badly” by men.
Immediately-- perhaps because I had been reading a thriller-- my mind conjured up images of her having been thrown out of a moving vehicle, such as a car or a train. She was referring merely to the fact that her last two boyfriends had broken up with her. The entire process of dating is marked by interruption and rejection.
Throughout a relationship, one person should not purposely mislead the other either by outright lying or by not mentioning things a partner would want to know and have the right to know.
Certainly, that includes simultaneously dating others. Most couples today expect that if they are sleeping with each other, neither of them will be sleeping with someone else.
If she participates in more intimate behavior, she is not obligated to go further still.
She may only be trying to say that she is “not that kind of woman.” Once she has made that point, she may agree to what she wanted to do all long.
That is everyone’s experience at one time or another.
But the story made me stop and think about just what constituted “proper treatment” throughout dating.
Because the man may pay for dinner, the woman is not obligated to see him a second time or to engage in sexual behavior with him.
If at some point in their relationship, she chooses to kiss him, she in not obligated to go further.